Who knew that 85 yeas later Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher would be contending for the title: “World’s Longest Married Couple”? But that is exactly the case. Yesterday this couple (102 and 104 respectively) decided to give aged advice via a modern method. These two love birds tweeted (yes I do mean twitter) 14 bits of relationship advice to some 2,100 followers on Twitter. They received hundreds of questions from the followers and answered the top 14 here they are:
Question 1: What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
Answer: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
Question 2: How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
Answer: We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime.
Question 3: Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
Answer: We wouldn’t change a ting. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
Question 4: What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Answer: Zlemyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
Question 5: What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Answer: Respect, support & communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest & true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.
Question 6: What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Answer: A hard worker & a good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us. I married a good man!
Question 7: What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Answer: Z I cook dinner EVERY day. Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook! H: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
Question 8: You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
Answer: Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
Question 9: What is your fondest memory of your 85 years of marriage?
Answer: Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and one great-great grandchild.
Question 10: Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
Answer: The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
Question 11: How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Answer: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
Question 12: At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Answer: Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
Question 13: Is fighting important?
Answer: NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break.
Question 14: What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
Answer: We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day
Here’s to love!